Submitted by Stephanie Clinton, OkWB Admin
This past week the blogging envy troll has been showing his ugly face again. That little SOB. A little more than a year ago I wrote about blogging envy and how I deal with it. The jealousy we feel when a big time blogger promotes a smaller blogger and tells her 10 million fans to go and read the small potatoes blogger and the rest of us wonder why the universe picked her to the win the blogging jackpot that day. I’m over that, for real. I haven’t felt that ugly feeling in a long time.
This is a different ugly feeling. The feeling that I’m just standing still while all these other bloggers buzz around me, making amazing things happen. I think the biggest challenge that makes this evil little troll mess with my head are the numbers. Blogging is such a numbers game but there aren’t any hard and fast rules on how to win. That’s really frustrating, what works for some people doesn’t work for others. It just doesn’t seem fair and it’s a hard pill to swallow. This week the numbers really got to me when a PR company that I wanted to work with told me that my stats didn’t meet their criteria. I understood, they have their rules, but it stung.
I’ve learned not to look at my stats too often and focus on my writing. However, it’s hard to stay positive when you create something that you think is really great and hardly anybody sees it. I’ve come up with a few defense mechanisms when these feelings get to be too much.
First, I take stock of my list of blogging goals that are mocking me. If they are bringing me down or doing more damage than good, I tear them up and write new ones. No one ever said you had to write a list in stone…except Moses. And even he tossed out the 1st draft in frustration. That first draft must have been super long and both God and Moses knew his people wouldn’t be able to keep up with it. I think he went back to God and was like “numbers 11 and 102 are just way too hard. Can we revise this list? Make it a little more manageable?” And God was like…”sure thing Moses. I was expecting way too much of you and human kind to ask you to cut out all sugar and caffein and all that other stuff. Here’s a new list, one that is attainable” But I digress. My point is, it’s okay to revise lists and goals.
Next, I take stock of what I have to be thankful for. When the troll whispers his lies into my ear it’s easy to focus on my perceived failures. This happens often so I force myself to start listing off the good things happening in my life, accomplishments I’ve made personally and on my blog, where I am abundant, what I have to be grateful for. Reviewing the areas of my life that I should be giving thanks forces me to stop my pity party. I have to repeat this step often, but it helps.
Now it’s your turn. What do you do to ward off blogging envy?
Stephanie Clinton is a SAHM to two boys ages 9 and 4. She loves their hugs and kisses but does not love wiping their snotty noses. In her past life she has been a Gymboree teacher, an activity director at a retirement home, a business manager and a celebrity sighter. She likes to think of herself as a pretty decent cook, artistic, crafty and sort of okay with a sewing machine. She is a free lance writer, administrator for Oklahoma Women Bloggers and contributor to Metro Family Magazine. In her free time (if there ever is any) she can be found reading, volunteering in her community, singing, avoiding housework but most of all blogging about her stay-at-home adventures. Visit her at www.hugskissesandsnot.com