Food For Thought

I Have Some Advice for You

I want to share a prayer with you. I originally appeared in Facebook. I don’t know who wrote it, but it seemed to fit me perfectly.

“Lord, keep me from believing I must say something on every subject and release me from needing to straighten out everybody’s affairs. Make me thoughtful but not moody, helpful but not bossy. With my vast store of wisdom, it seems a pity not to use it all, but I really want a few friends at the end…

Keep my mind free from reciting endless details and give me wings to get to the point. I’ll not ask for improved memory, but for a growing humility and a lessening self-assurance when my memory sees to clash with the memories of others. Teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally….I might be mistaken.

Keep me reasonably sweet, for a cranky old woman is one of the crowning works of the devil. Give me the ability to see good things in unexpected places and talents in unexpected people, and give me O Lord, the grace to tell them so…Amen.”

I’ve spent most of my life handing out advice. As the oldest of four siblings I told the others what to do. I didn’t say they listened, but I often used my age and power to see to it that they did.


I had three roommates during college. Through classes, dorm mates, and boyfriends I had plenty of sage words of wisdom for their lives. Though we kept in touch off and on I don’t think any of my advice for them was life changing.

My teaching years put me in a position to offer innumerable wise words on a variety of subjects. The difference in that circumstance being most of those words weren’t mine. But I put my own spin on them and gave them out on any warranted occasion. I pray I didn’t do any lasting damage!

Marriage was a different story. Well, maybe not. I still had plenty of really good advice for my spouse, but he wasn’t usually interested in listening. He should have. In my opinion his life would have turned out a lot better. (Grin)

Of course I guided my children. I’d like to think my advice played a positive role in their formative years. Even today they actually ask my advice. I’m not sure they take it, but they ask.

As far as advice goes, I’m really good at giving it, but not so much when it comes to taking it. It isn’t that I know so much more than those around me. It’s more I don’t want to take it. Their advice gets in the way of my fun or enjoyment. In hindsight, I really should have listened more. I think that very fact keeps me giving advice. I don’t think any of us can have too many options to consider, especially since we have the choice of ignoring it. So give your family and friends advice, but don’t be upset when they don’t take it.


Rita2I’ve been in education for over 35 years. I’m the mother of two sons and the grandmother to four young boys. I belong to a cat named Mousey and I have two big attack dogs that might lick an intruder to death, but I must admit they wouldn’t bite unless someone gets between them and their food. My second passion is writing. My stories tend to revolve around characters with Oklahoma roots. I am a reluctant blogger at I find it hard to believe that anyone is interested in my life or experiences. On the other hand, I have a lot experience gained through life. I enjoy sharing my thoughts and ideas. 



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  1. very good advice.
    I took some advice from Oprah years ago. When asked about things say I’ve got to check with Jesus on that. Then take a while before giving an answer. That works when asked to volunteer or when wondering how to answer someone who has hurt your feelings.

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