Why I Blog–Blogger of the Month

“Why I Dare to Blog”

My first creative writing class was in high school, with the Awesome Conrad Vollertsen. He interviewed students before accepting them into his class, and I stuttered and bawled my way through that interview. Super embarrassing.  It was just the first of many times that I lost it in that class, standing in front of everyone, reading a poem or vignette. Twenty years later, and I’m still struggling to stand in front of the blogosphere to share my thoughts. Blogging doesn’t come easy for me. I feel like my posts are long and boring, or that I sound like a know-it-all. I never post without second guessing or judging myself, and wondering whether or not I should even share it. Including this one.

But I blog because I have to. I need to. For one thing, having a blog and a strong online presence is a requirement for an author. For another thing, and most importantly, having a blog means I’m showing up, making myself visible, and that’s something I fear.

With all this internet buzz lately about introverts, the power of introverts, the Myers Briggs test that revealed I’m 100% introverted (big surprise,) and an INTJ which revealed I’m also not the friendliest of the introverted (shocker,) I’m honestly just sick of it. I’m sick of the word. The label. The way of life.

Sure, I’d rather be at home than anywhere else. There have been times when my babies were little and I didn’t leave my house for an entire month. I wouldn’t even step onto my front porch. I’d rather chew the grissly fatty parts of leftover chicken than get groceries. Ask me to go for drinks or (gasp!) meet for coffee and my palms start sweating like they do in the check-out line when I can’t find my debit card. It’s not that I don’t want to meet with you, chat with you and connect, it’s that I need to be in the right frame of mind when I meet you.

I’m not criticizing the introverted personality, I’m criticizing  what I’ve done with my social aversion. I’ve let it keep me from living. I’ve used it as an excuse to hide. However, as much as I fear getting out and interacting with people, I fear more what will happen if I don’t. What would it teach my children? Will I ever accomplish the big or small things I dream about if I never reach out to the world?

Last year, I came across Brenè Brown’s TED talk about vulnerability and shame. Her latest books, Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection are life changing. She has ten guideposts for Wholehearted Living which I’ve begun to study and write about on my blog. It’s a lot of eye-opening information and I’m still wrapping my mind around it, but my approach to interacting with people has changed already.

You can easily pull a hundred great quotes from her writing, but here are a few I find particularly helpful:

“Authenticity…is about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.” From The Gifts of Imperfection

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.” –Brenè Brown

“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.” From Daring Greatly

And here is Teddy Roosevelt’s Daring Greatly quote, chopped up into pieces I can understand:

“It is not the critic who counts…the credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again…who knows great enthusiasms…who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly…”

Finally, make yourself a meme like this. It’s a great way to expose all the ways you think people are judging you, when it truly reveals how you judge yourself.


Blogging is one of my top exercises for Daring Greatly. I have a public record of showing up even though I was scared, even though it makes me feel vulnerable and exposed. It’s an account of courage my children can read. And I can tell them I wasn’t perfect at it, I wasn’t always in the mood for it, but I did it anyway. It may be one of the best things I can teach them.

How are you Daring Greatly in your life? What makes you feel vulnerable?


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  1. Jammie, I too am an introvert. I’ve spent my life fighting the feelings of not being good enough. Now at the age of 60 after being forced into retirement too early, I am trying to break into writing. I have two books being published next year and working on a third. Pushing forward! You can’t keep a good woman down.

    • Jammie Kern says:

      Boom! That’s right, Peggy! You can’t keep a good woman down! Remember IHOP? For me, that was a big exercise in making connections with other people. And I’m so glad I went, my girls still talk about the nice people who bought them pancakes. I’m happy for you and your publishing achievements! 😉

  2. It’s taken me nearly forever to get to reading this post, and for that I apologize, Jammie!

    As a fellow INTJ (and 100% introvert), I understand what you’re saying. I’ve been struggling with ‘social media’ a lot lately, and when I had to euthanize my cat, I was honestly a bit relieved that I had an actual reason to finally step back from blogging and facebook and twitter for a few weeks.

    But like you said, I’m never going to be able to accomplish my dreams if I don’t let other people in, or reach out. I just somehow have to find the balance.

    • Jammie Kern says:

      Thank you Rebekah! I’m always impressed by your work ethic and your Nano skills! We have to stick together, us socially awkward fiction writers who’d rather keep company with our characters in our own worlds. I was so sorry to hear about your cat, that’s a perfectly sound reason to retreat from society for awhile. And finding balance is probably my resolution for 2014. Much love!

  3. Letty Watt says:

    I, too, felt compelled to write after reading Daring Greatly. Just now I looked back on my blog and found my initial story about the effects of reading Brown’s book. I was actively writing my blog, but this was a newspaper article about a passion I shared of how getting to know our neighbors and neighborhood may be one way to stop some of the senseless killings that now exist almost daily in our society. Like you and Brown say, we must learn to be vulnerable. It is most rewarding and scary, I think. My blogsite article is Readings and Greetings: Daring Greatly (FRIDAY, JANUARY 11, 2013) So glad you shared this information and I now look forward to reading Gifts of Imperfections. Oh, you might enjoy listening to her TED talks.
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