Momma’s Family

July 31, 2014

Heather DavisToday’s post is brought to us by Heather Davis, the first member of Oklahoma Women Bloggers. The author of several award-winning memoirs, you can find her blog, Minivan Momma, to hear more about her “adventures in the funny lane.”


I try extra hard to be grateful for the positives in my life. I try even harder to turn the negatives into positives.

I was thrown for a loop, however, when my own momma had a stroke in March. My dad had a long and lurid history of strokes and cardiac ill-health. So, when my mom had her stroke, I knew what a game-changer it would be for her. At 75-years-old, she was still 100% independent, lived on her own, updated Facebook regularly and pretty much still called all of her own shots.

The stroke was debilitating. Her life was changed. No longer does she have the use of her right hand, and most of her right arm. She can walk only with assistance. Mentally, she’s on top of her game, but she has to learn a whole new way of living.

And, she’s doing it at my house.

I spent the greater portion of my teenage years trying to figure out a way to not live with this woman. Oddly enough, my family and I just went through major changes in order to live with her yet again. And I’m grateful that I can help in this way.

I am also so grateful to be able to pay that woman back.

“We don’t do that in this house.”

“I think it’s time for you to go to bed.”

“I think it’s time for you to get out of bed.”

“Where are you going?”

“Come back here.”

“What did you just say?”

All of these things—and many more—have escaped from my mouth to my mother’s ears since she’s moved in. All said in love, of course, because I only want what’s best for her. (I don’t know how many times she followed up her scoldings with those exact words!)

If only she’d start dating a guy named Boner and if only she’d break down in sobs telling me she loved him just so I could tell her in no uncertain terms that Boner was not an acceptable boyfriend OR name, the circle would be complete.

Even if that never happens, I’m grateful to be able to bring my momma into my home. And not just so I can make her eat the crusts on her PB & Js.

10153283_10203807847660427_5404934977475356501_n(1)Heather, Daughter 1 and Heather’s own Momma share a selfie.

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Oklahoma Women BloggersStephanie Clinton is a SAHM to two boys ages 9 and 4.  She loves their hugs and kisses but does not love wiping their snotty noses.  In her past life she has been a Gymboree teacher, an activity director at a retirement home, a business manager and a celebrity sighter.  She likes to think of herself as a pretty decent cook, artistic, crafty and sort of okay with a sewing machine.  She is a free lance writer, administrator for Oklahoma Women Bloggers and contributor to Metro Family Magazine.  In her free time (if there ever is any) she can be found reading, volunteering in her community, singing, avoiding housework but most of all blogging about her stay-at-home adventures.  Visit her at

People love lists.

The top 100 colleges in the US, The best small towns in America,  Top 10 vacation destinations,  20 ways to save money on your Disney vacation,  the 50 best companies to work for.

I would read all of those lists.

But then you see the negative lists.  The ones that highlight how all the foods you thought were good for you are actually killing you; the safety hazards in your home that you have overlooked and it’s a miracle you’re house hasn’t blown up yet; the list of towns that are the worst place to live.  How depressing.

Recently one of those depressing lists came out listing the worst states in the US.  Oh great.  Oklahoma was near the top, “According to CNBC, Oklahoma ranks among the worst states in the nation for crime, health and air quality.” (source: NewsOK)  You know what?  I claim that is a bunch of B to the S.  Sure we have an obesity problem, the pollen count is through the roof and will give any asthmatic nightmares, and the lowest common denominator has brought our crime rate up.  Nobody’s perfect.  However, there is a whole lot of good happening here.

OklahomaLet’s talk about the museums, the festivals, the beautiful nature.  Did you know that Oklahoma is one of only four states that has more than 10 ecoregions?  You don’t have to travel far to find a beautiful vacation destination.  Oklahoman’s love festivals…everything from noodling festivals to various music festivals.  Did you know we even have a hot air balloon festival?  How they pull that off with our blustery weather, I’m not sure, but more power to ‘em.

Everybody is going to have a different opinion of what they look for in a place to live.  Not everyone is going to agree regarding politics or religion; that is going to be the case no matter where you live.  One thing 99% of us can agree upon is the high standard of good will and hospitality in Oklahoma.  One visit to the Oklahoma Memorial Museum will define, in no uncertain terms, how Oklahomans can rise to a challenge.  When faced with hardship or tragedy they pull themselves up then offer a hand to their neighbor and pull them up too.  The worst situations bring out the best in us and there is no such thing as stranger in these circumstances.

Oklahoma a great place to live

One of my hilarious friends who also happens to be a OkWB member, Sabine of Suburbia, had this to say about this stupid list: “Earlier this week I read about the poll ranking Oklahoma as the 2nd worst state to live. Then this morning we went to the Cherry Street Farmer’s Market. We ate Elote puffy breakfast tacos sitting on the sidewalk while listening to a sweet older couple play a guitar and banjo duet. The kids raced to put money in the tip jar. We stopped for coffee and muffins. We listened to various local musicians including a super talented guitar player. I bought almost a complete weeks worth of groceries, all Oklahoma grown and made, while the kids watched the magician on the corner. There are certainly things I would change, a lot of things, but it was nice to be reminded that this place I call home is pretty great at times.”

So, CNBC, I’m making a new list.  The list of lists that I’ll never read.  You’re on it.



me giveaway picMany thanks to our July blogger of the month, Kristal Strong! Be sure to keep up with her as she continues to blog at The Strong Family.

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I want to thank the lovely Mari & Stephanie for highlighting my blog this month! You ladies are wonderful & have been so patient with me this month. Thank you!

This has been a busy summer, as I’m sure it has been for you, too. I’ve coined this the “Summer to Savor”, as my oldest will be starting kindergarten in the fall and I know that will bring lots of changes to our family.

In an effort to spend more intentional time with my family & friends, especially this month, blogging has taken a backseat. It’s been very quiet around The Strong Family  this summer. That will be changing, though, so I hope you’ll follow along as I pick back up, blogging about a variety of things.

why i blog

There are a few things I love about blogging & they are the reasons I keep coming back.

Voice: I love staying home with my kiddos everyday, but I also love sharing my voice, life, with others.. Blogging provides me a space to share what’s happening in our life, in my heart, in the kitchen or a myriad of other things I might want to share.

Community: I love the community I found within the blogging world. I’ve become connected with women all over the world whom I never would have met were it not for blogging.

Challenge: Blogging challenges me in ways I wouldn’t have imagined. I’m challenged to be creative with the content I write, challenged with my time management, challenged by other bloggers I come in contact with, etc.

This certainly isn’t an exhaustive list, but rather the top three things I love about blogging.

What about you? Why do you blog?


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