My Love/Hate Relationship With Facebook and Twitter

Facebook, Hugs, Kisses and Snot  When it comes to blogging I really like it.  I actually feel like I’m interacting with readers when I see them “like” a blog post or comment and I can easily respond back.  I can post pictures that can be viewed instantly instead of having to click thru to see it.  I’m still a blogging nobody so all of the interactions are positive.  Bloggers with a big following get the negative feedback that fans feel they can spout off at will.  I guess when the jerks start coming out of the woodwork and commenting I should feel honored that they feel I’m important enough to spend their negative energy on me.  Oh the anticipation of the day I’m treated like crap.  Then I’ll know they really like me.

My private FB page can be a little frustrating.  While I love keeping up with friends and watching their families grow sometimes there is just too much information.  I want to remain friends with these people but if they keep posting some of the things they post it makes me start to wonder why we’re friends.  I don’t want to know some of the things they share; ignorance is bliss in some cases.  Dear Husband puts it this way:  Posting on FB is like being at a huge picnic with all the people you know, getting up on a table with a bullhorn and telling everybody there what’s on your mind.  Do you really want everybody to know how you feel about Obamacare or gay rights regardless of their opinions or feelings?  Does everybody and their dog need to know you just worked out or went through Starbucks?

Twitter, Hugs, Kisses and Snot.  I didn’t get on the Twitter bandwagon when it first started and I’ve been behind ever since.  All good bloggers know that social media is a very large piece of the blogging success puzzle and we need to stay on top of FB, Twitter, Google +, Pinterest, Instagram, the list goes on.  On top of that we need to be reading and commenting on other blogs and participating in blogging communities.  Who the heck has time for all of that?  I’ve got kids to raise, homework to check, dinner to make, housework to avoid, oh, and blog posts to write.  What it comes down to is I feel forced to pick and choose which social media outlets I’ll utilize because I just don’t have time for all of it.  It’s better to be good at a few things than half-assed at all of them.

Last fall, I went to a blogging conference and left feeling like a serious loser for not having a Twitter handle.  As soon as I was able to figure out what a “handle” was I ran to my computer to sign up.  It didn’t take long before I was befuddled and annoyed.  I started following friends, aquaintances, all sorts of bloggers I didn’t know and a few I did know, and would follow-back people who followed me.  It didn’t take long before my feed was full of random stuff from people I didn’t know and could care less about.  A blogger friend of mine said to clean out my Twitter feed and just follow bloggers I really liked and people I actually knew in real life.  Well, if I did that I would be down to 10 people and what’s the point of that?

I’m really torn regarding Twitter.  According to the blogger handbook they give you as soon as you sign up to be a mom-blogger, if you’re not active on Twitter, tweeting something hilarious every 42 minutes and retweeting other people’s posts then you’ll become a jerk.  Your blog won’t go anywhere, your Google rating will be crap and you’ll end up in the gutter with an ashtray, paddle game, a remote control, matches, this chair, and that’s all.

So what do I do?  Twitter is just one more thing in my life that adds noise and stress.  The last thing us moms need is to deliberately add noise and stress.  Do I risk becoming a homeless jerk with an unsuccessful blog?  Do I really care what the blogging goddesses say and follow their rules?  I’m leaning toward “no” but don’t hold me to it because I’ve got to go retweet one of my posts from yesterday and FB about how awesome the Starbucks green tea latte is.  I’ll get back to you.

Steph headshot121Stephanie Clinton is our blogger of the month. She blogs at Hugs, Kisses and Snot.

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  1. Despite the fact that it’s harder to connect on Facebook than it used to be (since Facebook is doing everything they can to get us to pay to “promote” our posts… something I’ll never do!), I still really like interacting on Facebook. It’s fun, it’s mostly simple, and most importantly… I’m alloted more than 140 characters per post.

    I’ve had a Twitter for a couple of years, but I’m not a huge fan. It was only recently that I figured out how to have my Facebook posts automatically exported to my Twitter, so now I hardly have to actually get on Twitter at all. It’s so hard to interact. In the 2 years I’ve been blogging, I’ve gotten over 5,500 “likes” on Facebook… and just over 350 followers on Twitter. It doesn’t hurt my feelings, the more I can stay out of Twitter, the better!

    I’m also very active on Pinterest, that I think is a lot of fun!

  2. You’ve expressed my exact sentiments–only much better than I could have. Although I now love my blog, I started it only to promote my book; then I learned I had to increase my presence on FB and Twitter in order to promote by blog. And don’t forget about LinkedIn. Where does it all end?

  3. I’m with you on Twitter – as someone said it’s like listening in on a thousand conversations that you have no idea what they’re talking about. I only use it to stalk my teenage daughter – who unfriended me on twitter, but I can see see all her posts – which also makes me worry more because there is no privacy at all on there.
    Facebook I love. It is such an easy way to keep up with friends. But I have noticed that some people are a one note song, playing all day long. Whether you’re for or against gun control – do you have to post something fifteen times a day about it? Can you say redundant?

  4. As a new blogger, I am so with you, Stephanie. I got on FB in December (and am still getting the snarky “Oh, so hell finally DID freeze over, aye?” comments from friends) and started blogging in January. I have decided to not even attempt Twitter until I can say “tweet me” with a straight face!

  5. Sabine says:

    I’m so glad I’m not the only one to not jump on the Twitter bandwagon. I felt like I have to tweet something constantly, I couldn’t keep it under the 140 characters, and I felt like a stalker following people I don’t know. Considering giving it another go, but I don’t know. If you go first, maybe you can give me the Tweeting tutorial. : )

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